THE POWER OF COMMUNICATION
Ephesians 4:29 – “Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.”
Fires don’t start out big and destructive. Fires start out small, but have tremendous potential for destruction. So too are the words we say with our tongues. The tongue is a small part of our body but it can cause tremendous havoc and problems for us and for the innocent people around us. (James 3:5-6 – Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth! And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell.)
“The power of the tongue” to do Good.
• The tongue has the ability to dispense good council and wisdom from trusted Godly leaders when we need it. (Proverbs 10:20 – The tongue of the just is as choice silver: the heart of the wicked is little worth.)
• The tongue has the power of encouragement. The right word at the right time can do wonders to encourage someone with a heavy heart. (Proverbs 12:25 – Heaviness in the heart of man maketh it stoop: but a good word maketh it glad.)
• The tongue has the power to stop anger before it has a chance to boil over. (Proverbs 15:1 – A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.)
“The power of the tongue” to do Evil.
• In the list of 7 abominations in the sight of God, Solomon mentions lying lips and those that sow discord among the brethren. (Proverbs 6:17,19 – A proud look, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, A false witness that speaketh lies, and he that soweth discord among brethren.) – Notice in the same sentence that God condemns murder; he mentions and condemns lying as well. To tell a lie, especially about another Christian, is a serious sin.
• A person who does not control his tongue will bring destruction to himself. (Proverbs 13:3 – He that keepeth his mouth keepeth his life: but he that openeth verswide his lips shall have destruction. & Proverbs 17:20 – … and he that hath a perverse tongue falleth into mischief.)
Your tongue has a lot of potential. Potential to do good and potential to do evil. What are you using your tongue for? Are you building up your friends and people you know or are you tearing them down behind their back? Are you spreading lies about someone? Are you gossiping about someone? Are you using the power of your tongue for good or for evil?
“Know what is acceptable” Are you speaking what is acceptable? Common sense should let us know if what we are saying, messaging, texting, or Facebooking is good or if it is evil. (Proverbs 10:32 – The lips of the righteous know what is acceptable: but the mouth of the wicked speaketh frowardness.) “frowardness” in this verse means perverse or fraudulent. In other words, are you speaking what is good, right, and edifying; or are you speaking what is perverse or untrue? We are warned in Proverbs 20:19 not to hang out with someone who has a filthy mouth, someone who likes to gossip or is a liar. (Proverbs 20:19 – He that goeth about as a talebearer revealeth secrets: therefore meddle not with him that flattereth with his lips.) Those who speak first without thinking are referred to as fools by Solomon. (Proverbs 29:11 – A fool uttereth all his mind: but a wise man keepeth it in till afterwards.)
WRONG COMMUNICATION AFFECTS OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH OUR LORD (I John 1:5-6 – This then is the message which we have heard of him, and declare unto you, that God is light, and in him is no darkness at all. If we say that we have fellowship with him, and walk in darkness, we lie, and do not the truth)
Our fellowship with God is maintained as we walk in light. How can we have a proper relationship with God if our communication is perverse, dark and sinful? “God is light” this is describing an attribute of God. Light is purity, it brings clearness, it shows beauty. As light is necessary for life, our communication needs to reflect God’s light instead of reflecting the perverse darkness of the Devil. If we walk in obedience to our Lords commands concerning our communication, we will be able to have great fellowship with Him. (I Samuel 15:22 – And Samuel said, Hath the LORD as great delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices, as in obeying the voice of the LORD? Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice...)
HAVE YOU EVER BEEN THE VICTIM OF “corrupt communication”? IT HURT DIDN’T IT? (Ephesians 4:29 – Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.) To have someone lie about you or spread a rumor about you can hurt. The Lord Jesus has experienced all of that too. He can help you get through the hurt. He can help heal your wounds. Just give it to Him. Let Christ take the burden of that from you. (Psalm 118:6 – The LORD is on my side; I will not fear: what can man do unto me?)
Don’t let that hurt take you over. The Bible tells us to not allow sin to control us no matter whose sin it is. Choose to have joy in the Lord no matter you circumstances. (Psalm 119:133 – Order my steps in thy word: and let not any iniquity have dominion over me. & Philippians 4:11 – Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.) Learn to control your reactions to sinful hurtful communications. Learn to follow our Lords example. Learn to go by the words he gave us in Matthew 5:39 – “But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also.”
In conclusion we learned that the words we use can cause a lot of damage. Our words come from such a small part of our body, our tongue, but can cause such serious harm to others. (James 3:5-6) We learned that our tongue has the power to do great good and to do much evil. We need to “Know what is acceptable.” Are we speaking what is acceptable? Are we messaging, or texting, or Facebooking what is good or what it is evil? We learned that our “corrupt communication” will affect our relationship with God. Because we cannot be living in the darkness of “corrupt communication” and be having fellowship with God at the same time. We need to learn to control our reactions to false accusations and sinful hurtful communications. We need to follow our Lords example and to go by His words he gave us in Matthew 5:39 – “But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also.”