James 4:11 “Speak not evil one of another, brethren. He that speaketh evil of his brother, and judgeth his brother, speaketh evil of the law, and judgeth the law: but if thou judge the law, thou art not a doer of the law, but a judge.”
A friend came to me the other day so very upset. This friend is getting depressed looking for a church that “accepts” divorced people. This friend was actively serving the Lord in a couple of ministries in the church, they found out about the divorce and made this person step down from all their ministries. How dare any church treat anyone like this. Divorce happens for different reasons and for one did the Lord put the “exception” there for . Matthew 19:9a says “And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication….” God hates divorce, and the divorced person hates it. But when it’s because of no fault of the innocent spouses because of fornication , God does recognize that, and in my opinion, and what I read about what the Bible says, that person is allowed to serve and minister in the church. Putting a limit on what one can or cannot do because of a divorce is shaming and belittling that person; you’re judging that person and that on so many levels is wrong!! God is the one who calls someone in a ministry NOT man!!(Romans 11:29)
There are so many different views on divorce. Study this topic and search out what God says in His word, it’s very simple. If you believe the Bible, you do not adjust the Bible to suit your belief on what you think it says, you need to adjust your beliefs to fit the Word of God. II Timothy 2;15a “Study to shew thyself approved unto God.…” Scripture does not contradict Scripture, it fits together like a puzzle. If the Bible doesn’t say it, you better be real careful about believing something the Bible doesn’t say!!
Divorced people need love and hope from family and friends and their church family. Church is not the place to judge, it is a place to demonstrate true Christian love. They need guidance ; they need pointed in the right direction. They don’t need to hear “man’s tradition” or the “way it’s always been taught”, they need real truth about what the Bible (God) says. God’s Word should be our guiding standard in our lives. Some “believers” insert their own clauses or exceptions into the reading of God’s word, while ignoring God’s clauses or exceptions. Please read Deuteronomy 4:2 and Proverbs 30:6.
So please Christian friends, don’t judge divorced people, have empathy , encourage them in the Lord; they have a story , divorce is not their identity, their identity is in Christ (Galatians 3:26). Divorce doesn’t make a person “bad”, just as you not being divorced makes you a good person (Romans 3:23). Don’t make a divorced person feel like a failure , don’t give them more to deal with by using “select” scripture to condemn them by your words and actions or attitude, love them and accept them as God loves you and accepts you!! (Matthew 7:1-2 – Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.)